To Litigate Is Not To Shrink

I know a wonderful therapist. Her name is Dr. Roxanne Prilutsky, PhD. I met Dr. Prilutsky through an excellent networking group for professionals. When we met, I quickly saw Dr. Prilutsky was a warm, empathetic therapist. Consequently, I agreed to refer any client inquiries to her.

I do not keep it a secret that I personally know of the emotional toll of going through divorce. I also do not keep it a secret that I saw Dr. Prilutsky when I was in the midst of my divorce. Spoiler alert: I am not a perfect individual, and therapy is therefore not beneath me.

I realized the need to have someone to discuss my emotions when I discovered I had the urge to do the same petty things I counsel my clients to avoid. I further realized I was not acting in my children's best interests at times by taking my personal frustrations out on them. For these reasons, I needed a sounding board and Dr. Prilutsky stepped in admirably.

Over the years, I occasionally receive calls from clients who want me to help them cope with their emotions, except they don't always know it. They want to discuss why they can't get over the fact that their exes found it so easy to "move on" with other people. They want to talk about why they feel the innate urge to "stick it to" their exes because of how they were mistreated. They want me to confirm that I will be "aggressive enough" to "throw the book" at their exes (my next post will be on the frequently misused desire for an "aggressive attorney").

In short, my clients sometimes want to pay me money to do things that probably will not not aid their case or be in the best interests of their children. When this occurs, I usually tell clients that their hard earned funds probably aren't being utilized if they are spent discussing their feelings to an individual who is not professionally trained to do so. I know that practicing family law requires empathy and handholding that most other practices of law do not.

But in extreme cases, a client is usually better-served seeking help from someone trained at helping people cope. In these cases, I recommend Dr. Prilutsky. The extent of my counseling acumen is to give clients platitudes about "night being darkest before the dawn." In my opinion, that does my clients a disservice.

If you, or someone you know, is currently in need of a professional who can help deal with the emotional toll of going through a divorce, please contact Dr. Prilutsky. If, however, you need an attorney who is confident enough to know what he is professionally trained to do, and what he is not, please contact me.

Categories: Divorce